An Apprentice in TACO told me this story recently, and we decided it would be fun to pass it on. One can only smile at how our Inner Judge is able to find fault, in spite of common sense or rational logic:

Whenever she was cleaning up her kitchen, The Apprentice would be quietly angry at her husband for not helping with the dishes. One night she discovered some plates that were not washed well, and she had to clean them over again. In that moment, she heard herself judging her husband for not paying attention and not doing a better job when he washed the dishes.

The Apprentice had enough self-awareness to catch herself in her contradiction: She could have one of these judgements, but she could not have both. Her husband could not be guilty of never washing dishes AND washing them carelessly. In her moment of clarity she found laughter, and released her husband from both judgments-- and the subtle punishments that had accompanied them.

By releasing her unconscious judgments, The Apprentice was free to initiate a conversation with her husband which resulted in more communication and mutual support in their relationship.

The moral of the story? Of course, it is that the more aware we become of the "Mitote" in our minds, AND the more acceptance and humor we can find in our own folly, the more love that we can bring to our lives and our relationships. The Apprentice has dedicated herself to exploring ALL of her inner dialog, and consciously choosing her beliefs and attitudes.

If that is a goal in YOUR life, I believe this Toltec path offers many valuable and powerful tools to make that dream a reality. Here at Joydancer.com and TACO we are dedicated to supporting your journey of awakening.